Dear Colette,
I love what you teach about being clear and direct in your communication versus being passive- digressiveTM . However, this can produce a catch-22, as men don’t expect women to be direct. There’s even research published that shows when women are direct, we’re perceived as *itches. The exception is when we speak on things men believe us to be more expert in than they are, which is limited to few things outside of other females and female hygiene. I hate these facts and I feel frustrated and a little hopeless by them, but that doesn’t make them less true. So now what?
-Clear and Direct
Dear Clear and Direct,
I’ve also read the research that shows women are often mislabeled as *itchy or aggressive when simply being clear and direct. Yet, to be indirect, round-about or passive-digressiveTM only leaves others confused or feeling manipulated. Assertiveness, whether male or female, includes communicating with respect, while being aware of body language and tone. Eliminate your fear of being clear to maximize relationships, revenue and results.
