Ask Colette Advice

Proper Speech

Dear Colette,     I recently graduated from college and started working in a large office. One of my more seasoned co-workers approached me recently and said, “If you want to advance in this company, you need to be more aware of your language.” This comment seemed to come out of nowhere, and up to this…

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Credit Everyone

Dear Colette,     A co-worker and I are both responsible for a project in our office. Recently, I overheard him discussing the progress with our supervisor. The way he was stating the information, it sounded like he did the majority of the work which hasn’t been the case. We have both been working hard on…

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Not A Friend

Dear Colette,              I have a friend of 3 years, whom I would do anything for. Such as, cancel my plans with my fiancé to babysit her daughter, be there for her for all her problems, offer my help and advice, celebrate with her on special occasions. Take her out for her birthday, help her…

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Relationship

Dear Colette,     My Mother has been seriously ill off and on over the past few years. Although she currently lives in her home state, she was living with me during some of the most difficult times when we weren’t sure if she was going to live. Now that she is back in her home…

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Don’t Put You Down

Dear Colette,     Every time I go to lunch with a co-worker she goes on and on about how she needs to lose weight and then she orders a juicy burger and fries or another high-caloric meal. I could care less what she eats or what she weighs but she is taking the fun out…

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New Baby and Holidays

Dear Colette,     I’m already dreading the next 20 years, and my son is only 11 months old! My husband and I have always taken turns traveling out of state to see my folks or his parents over the holidays. Now that we have the baby, my mother-in-law has already made noises about how excited…

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Job Now or Later

Dear Colette,     Without being prompted, a colleague hand delivered my resume to an individual with a company that I would love to work for. He says it looks good, but I won’t know for a few weeks. Just yesterday my boss, who I truly respect, asked me to take on an assignment that will…

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Visits and Hope

Dear Colette,     My sister and brother-in-law have two beautiful children that I adore spending time with. However, my sister and her husband don’t always work and can’t manage their money. In the past they have used seeing the children as a weapon to get more money out of my family. My parents decided not…

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Budget Blues

Dear Colette,     I put myself on a budget a few months back because I was spending more than I make. Although I set aside some money for holiday shopping, I didn’t anticipate all the groups that have asked me to donate to their cause over the past few weeks. I feel guilty saying no…

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