Speaking Your Truth. It sounds so simple, yet it can be the most difficult thing to do for so many. Myself included. For too many years I thought keeping the lips zipped or stretching the truth so far it could snap was safer than being real. After all, it protected me from possible rejection, losing someone’s approval or ticking them off which seemed a better alternative. What a waste of precious time. Thinking and feeling this way kept me fat, stifled at work and without a love relationship. What is not speaking up for what you want costing you?
Let me be clear. Speaking your truth is not Serena Williams swearing at the line-judge for making a call she disagreed with, nor is it Kanye West during the MTV music awards when he jumped the stage to spout his opinion during Taylor Swift’s win. It’s not Jet Blue’s flight attendant Steven Slater who lost his cool with a rude passenger, told everyone to kiss off, grabbed beers and exited the plane via the inflatable slide. It’s certainly not most politicians or teenagers in trouble.
Speaking your truth is not an excuse to go out and tell everyone exactly what’s on your mind, but a wake-up call to stop making excuses for why you can’t have that uncomfortable conversation that will move you closer to what you really want. It takes practice to have a real conversation where you risk being vulnerable.
Part of the problem stems from the fact that too many people shove down their truth, so it gets bottled up and BAM! Rather than deal with the real issue, it’s much easier to just go off on someone you’re frustrated with at the time. But if you raise your voice, you’re not speaking your truth.You see, it can be done with grace, tact and respect.
My own personal definition? I believe speaking your truth is when your mind, mood, mouth and motions are one in the same. What you think, feel, say and do are in alignment. Otherwise, you’re simply not being honest about yourself or your choices. You’re living a form of a lie which only keeps you playing small and avoiding the truth limiting your potential for greatness. It’s time to risk being real.
As I said earlier, what is not speaking up for what you want costing you?